Therapy for Women of Color
As a woman of color, you are known for your strength, resilience, perseverance, and your tenacity to “keep it together” when others fall apart. What people don’t know is that you sometimes feel like you don’t have the option to fall apart. Other people depend on you. So you quietly drown your emotions and your hurt in “busyness.” Yet, in those quiet moments, you think about what’s missing and want something better for yourself. You want to be heard and understood, not pitied or lectured. You want to express emotion and not be mis-perceived. You want to speak your truth and not feel judged or have to explain the validity of how you feel. You want to feel good about yourself and want a therapist that gets you. As a woman of color, I hear your frustrations. I know how difficult it is to find a therapist who shares a similar background as you.
A recent study found that “86 percent of psychologists in the U.S. workforce were white, 5 percent were Asian, 5 percent were Hispanic, 4 percent were black/African-American and 1 percent were multiracial or from other racial/ethnic groups.” With odds like that, I sometimes wonder if it might be easier to find a unicorn. Being a woman of color isn’t the only thing about you that matters but it plays a huge role in how you see yourself, how others see you, and how your relationships play out.