Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist (LMFT # 128914)
I'm Emily Rubens, an individual therapist who helps
people manage anxiety and overwhelm.
I'm also someone who knows how vulnerable it can feel to ask for help.
I understand how hard it is to ask for help when you feel anxious or depressed. At times it can feel overwhelming. You might not have the words to describe your emotional experience, let alone your goals for therapy. It’s common to feel vulnerable when asking for help or unsure about what might come up in therapy. While feelings of uncertainty are common, you may learn to feel empowered and to trust yourself in this process. I invite you to embrace hope for change, despite the uncertainty. Together we can reframe that uncertainty and find the excitement in what is possible.
As your therapist, my goal is to create a space
where you can make changes at your own pace.
When working with me, know that there is no “right” or “wrong” way to begin or continue your healing journey. You will not need to post a before and after photo because every version of you deserves respect, kindness, and understanding. I believe that part of this journey requires just that – a willingness to accept yourself in hopes of living a more authentic and fulfilling life. When working with me, know that there is no “right” or “wrong” way to begin or continue your healing journey. You will not need to post a before and after photo because every version of you deserves respect, kindness, and understanding.
Are you ready to take the first step towards achieving greater self-acceptance? If so, I can provide a space for us to work through whatever is going on when you feel ready.
You deserve to slow down and enjoy your life - not simply power through it.
There is more to life than working hard and suffering. I can help you work through the pain and hurt and feel more empowered, confident, and at ease in your life and body. Change is possible. Living the life you want is attainable. If we decide to work together, my goal is to help you sift through the noise to:
- Develop healthier coping skills;
- Increase self-compassion and confidence;
- Cultivate a sense of empowerment;
- Identify trauma responses that may no longer be serving you; and
- Understand how your thoughts and feelings influence your relationships.
Therapy and your relationship with a therapist are as unique as you are.
There is no one-size-fits-all therapy. I use various frameworks to create an individualized treatment. This also allows us to collaborate often to find what works best for you. This starts with an intake assessment for us to get to know each other. We will talk about your background, unique situation, stressors, quirks, concerns, and ways you learn best during the assessment process. This is an excellent time to determine whether we will work well together and discuss what you would like to accomplish in therapy.
I may also suggest mental exercises to help increase insight and foster skill development outside of sessions. Recommended activities are specific to you, your goals, your treatment stage, and how you learn best. I hope to help clients go beyond “getting by” and move into a space where they can grow, thrive, and enjoy their lives.
Background and Specialties
Although your mental health is an important aspect of your life experience - it is not the only thing that defines you.
I do some of my best work when helping people learn to manage symptoms of anxiety, depression, stress, and trauma. Although terms such as “anxiety disorder” and “major depression” are used to describe groups of symptoms you may experience, I avoid narrow and limiting narratives that define ways of being. I view mental health as an important aspect of life that does not need to prohibit you from having fulfilling romantic relationships, enjoyable work, meaningful friendships, and greater self-compassion. I work with clients to cultivate a more profound sense of self and help them navigate life’s stressful transitions.
I enjoy working with people from all walks of life and particularly enjoy my work with women, young adults, and folks within and allied with the LGBTQIA+ community. In addition to private practice, I have worked in other settings throughout the larger San Francisco Bay Area, such as community-based centers and schools. In addition to my current work with adults, I previously worked with adolescents, parents, and families.