Individual Therapist, APCC # 5308
Supervised by Melanie Chinchilla, PhD, PSY #30451
I'm Emily Rubens, an individual therapist who helps people
learn to manage anxiety and regain motivation.
I'm also someone who understands how vulnerable it can feel to
ask for help.
I may not have lived your unique experience, but I do know what it’s like to feel stressed, anxious and to be a client seeking therapy. At times it can feel overwhelming. You might not have the words to describe your emotional experience, let alone know what it is that you want to work on. It’s not uncommon to experience vulnerability or shame when asking for help or to feel unsure about what therapy might bring up along the way. While fear and uncertainty often accompany the unknown, it can also feel empowering to trust yourself in this process. I invite you to embrace hope for change, despite the uncertainty. Together we can reframe that uncertainty and find the excitement in what is possible.
As your therapist, my goal is to create a space where you can develop healthy ways of coping to create the change you want to see in your life.
When working with me, know that there is no “right” or “wrong” way to begin or continue on your healing journey. You will not need to post a before and after photo because every version of you deserves respect, kindness, and understanding. I believe that part of this journey requires just that – a willingness to accept all the parts of yourself in hopes of living a more authentic and fulfilling life.
You deserve to slow down and enjoying your life - not simply power through it.
You can work through the pain and hurt and feel more empowered, confident, and at ease in your life and body. There is more to life than working hard and suffering. Change is possible. Living the life you want is attainable. If we decide to work together, my goal is to help you sift through the noise to understand:
- Develop healthy coping skills;
- Identify trauma responses may no longer be serving you;
- Identify and challenge self-criticism and increase self-compassion;
- Increase self-confidence and sense of empowerment,
- Better understand how thoughts and feelings influence behaviors and relationships
Individual therapy is as unique as you are.
There is no one-size-fits all therapy. My work with each client starts with an intake assessment that allows us to get to know each other. During this time we will talk about your background, unique situation, stressors, quirks, concerns, and ways you learn best. This is a good time for us to figure out whether we will work well together and for you to discuss what you would like to accomplish in therapy.
In addition to the work we do in therapy, I often recommend and/or provide clients with podcast or book recommendations, and may suggest activities and/or exercises clients can complete outside of therapy to help increase insight, understanding, and foster skill development. Recommended activities are specific to you, your goals, and your stage in treatment. Ultimately, my goal is to help my clients go beyond “getting by” and move into a space where they can grow, thrive, and enjoy their personal and professional lives.
With respect to specific areas of specialty, I provide therapy for parents, including counseling for
Background and Specialties
I am passionate about being a therapist, and really enjoy counseling women, young adults, and individuals within and allied with the LBGTQIA+ community. I have a worked in a number of settings throughout the larger San Francisco Bay Area including schools and in community-based centers. In addition to my work current work with adults, I previously worked with adolescents, parents, and families and understand how challenging family dynamics can be.